Hannah Shucksmith

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Hannah ;D

why no... I can't say there was... ahaaa. i'm scared now.

Even when I was sat on his lap he would say 'I'm just gunna check the forum...' then spend 5 hrs looking through new posts and videos...

I just listen and give my opinions (: I don't think you should be feeling silly about not taking her back, you know in yourself if it was the right or wrong thing to do, correct? I think you honestly need to realise if you do love her or not, before thinking about taking her back, because i know that if it turns out you don't love her after all, you've given her false hope by being with her and it'll be even harder to let go. She clearly does need to open up to you, but it's obvious from what you've told me that there is an emotional barrier there, stopping her from telling you what's really wrong, maybe she feels embarrased? Could it be that she's living in the past, as dodgy as it sounds? Maybe one time you had an arguement and she told you what was wrong but you didn't understand her problem? That's often a very major part of girls not being able to open up. I was with a guy for a year and a half and I didn't open up to him at all, purely for the fact that one time when I told him what was wrong and he just threw it all back in my face and laughed at me, I didn't tell him anything from then on. It's true boys are more simple minded than girls, because we girls tend to over analyse things, I know, my ex sits there and just tells me he doesn't want me right now, but I'll sit there, and I'll cry over it because I don't understand why I am so bad, is it my looks? the way I am? Perhaps cause I have too many 'guy friends'? Maybe he doesn't like my family? There's so much more to the female mind than alot of guys realise. You mention the past happenings would 'always be on your mind.' It's true, it's so true, my ex did something terrible to me, well, from some people's point of view it wasnt that bad, but it broke me apart because I have such low self esteem levels and everyyy dayyy it was on my mind, I used to lay awake at night and cry over it, that's how badly it played on me, and it'll be the same with you. If you get back with her you will constantly be thinking "what if she's with some other guy right now", or, "what else did she do wrong that she hasnt told me". And you will find you get that, you will. You're one of these people who find some things easy to forgive and forget, and others not so easy, and I know that her past is something you are finding incredibly hard to forgive and forget. It's obvious it's all playing on your mind a tad, and it's obvious you still feel something for her, or you wouldn't be saying you feel silly for not taking her back. If it didn't matter, you wouldn't be thinking about it. Despite my rambling, what you really do need to figure out are you true feelings for her. Obviously your feelings are mixed right now, but you need to decide if you want her, need her and most importantly love her, before you get back with her and realise that you don't want, need or most importantly love her, before it's all too late, and you just end up hurting and getting hurt more. I wish I made more sense today. -Hannah x

Don't get me wrong, I don't think it's wrong to try and slow down global warming, but what I really want to know is why now? For years, we've been taught about global warming, my nan told me they discussed it when she was in school (which was a god damn long time ago...) so why is it only now that we're being taught to 'reduce our carbon footprint' or 'go green'?

Well since she's beeing literally begging for you take her back it kinda suggests to me that she really does need you, or, she just needs someone fall back on, however, i personally think that if she just needed anyone in general she would have given up with you and tried it on someone else (given her apparent past experience...) Since I broke up with my lad I've seen him once, and it hurts to see them and know that you're not theirs, i understand that perfectly well, and although I still think he's a nice lad, he did alot of things that hurt me, but deep down I still love him cause I'm a forgiving person, but it's all how you view it, I mean, if you still think she's a nice girl, especially after the 'other guys' sitatuations that surely that shows you kinda do forgive her, thus, you do still feel something for her, no matter how small. I personally hate being single aha, just because I hate not having that support behind me when I need it most, but I understand what you're saying about having freedom, for example, my ex used to ride whenever he wanted really, and i let him because it's his hobby and sure, sometimes I got abit stressy about it, but i learnt to live with it, it's not like your ex used to take you away from riding all the time is it? did she actually used to stop you from riding or just force you not to go out? The fact that you used the terms - 'she's got nothing to be upset with' tells me that you don't actually understand what she's going through, number one, she will feel so full of regret for the fact that you though/think she had something going on with another guy, and if she did, then she's going to be blaming herself for breaking up with you because of that. number two -oh come onnn! A year and a half of having someone behind you all the way and now not having anyone...that's terrible! A year and a half is a long time when you're young, a very long time, and all that time she's had you to talk to, you to turn to when she needs you most and now she doesn't have anyone... It's clear that this girl hasn't told you all her true feelings or you would be able to understand exactly what she's going through, exactly what she HAS got upset to be about. Perhaps her year hasn't been as bad as yours, but people handle things on different levels, take your ex... she's 'lost' the one person she needs, she just has a different perspective of things and is probably being incredibly pessimistic about the situation, i know, when i lost the one person i needed most i went into complete and utter turmoil, and to be honest, she sounds like she's doing what i'm still doing. The fact she turns to your friends also has some kinda resemblance I do suppose, I mean, I am best friends with my ex's best friends, and I talk to them about it all the time because they understand my ex, if that made sense... so it makes it easier for me, because I can discuss the problems with my ex with someone who knows him just as well as i do, the fact that she's talking to your friends just makes me think that she's still trying to be as close to you as possible, because she's holding onto your strings as well as hers in the hope that you might actually get back together. I personally wouldn't go to this party tonight, if you know you're just going to end up arguing in a drunken state then it isnt really worth it, because it will only escalate your troubles with her when you let slip something you know you can't take back or you end up drunkenly flirting with someone else, which will just upset her. My honest advice about seeing her would be to meet up with her in private, just you and her, because a girl can't open up to someone they still love with others around. I can guarantee right now all that's on her mind is you, because she feels guilty for losing you and angry because she thinks you dont want her back, so just let her come to yours, or go to hers, and just sit with her and talk, seriously, watch her face light up when she hears your voice, hear her tone of voice change when she talks to you. It'll all make sense, eventually, why things are the way the are with you and her. Whatever's meant to be, will work out perfectly. -Hannah x

And of course there is the fact that the world will just get hotter and hotter until it reaches peak, which is when the temperature will decrease and of course we'll be blamed for that, in approx 80,000 years we're going to be in an ice age, it's natural, the world heats up then gets cold and heats up again and gets cold and it's happened for millions of years, so why are we even bothering to cut down on carbon emissions etc, when it's all meant to happen...

I said what you said to say

Allllll sorted (: Anywayy, back to girly troubles... x

Some people just don't like me do they. (: You seee, I try to talk and look what happens! I came on here and replied to some lad called Jack and I helped with his 'Girl Troubles' and i just asked, and as for it not being a 'relationship thread' half the posts on here are about alot of guys troubles in relationships. Hey ho, whatever, I'm not here for an arguement, just being friendly... :/

I can't just say no though, he hasnt asked me out so to speak, just told me what he feels for me, and he's written it all so lovely and I cant just say. look i dont fancy you end of. Cause he'll go into some depressed emo state (:

Aha, no worries (: Besides, I thought this thread was about girl trouble, not guys making passes on female tf members (: ahaa. Well I've got a guy problem if anyone feels like helping me... Basicallyyy, an old best friend of mine confessed he has feelings for me, known him since i was about 4, and he only just told me and now i'm abit like oh goddd, so how can i let him down gently, without crushing him? He's dead sensitive, but i just don't feel for himm...

' h annah, says (02:00): i dont want a 20. ' h annah, says (02:00): they feel too small. - anyone up for leefest on the 30th? whos going seone? FAT PANTS ™ says (02:01): haha - anyone up for leefest on the 30th? whos going seone? FAT PANTS ™ says (02:01): usually have that problem? - anyone up for leefest on the 30th? whos going seone? FAT PANTS ™ says (02:02): e.s.s.a.y. ' h annah, says (02:02): that was quite pathetically the worst sexual remark i have ever heard (: 1. i dont openly discuss my sex life 2. you are practically telling me i sleep with alot of people. 3. i have never had a problem with the size of my ex's penis thanks (: damn lads (: EDIT: Boyeddd (:

I don't feel comfortable ahaa! and since when did i ever mention periods? (: you're officially the first guy i've ever heard say 'menstruation' And besides, it's nice to be able to slag off girls from time to time... x

Did have See, there should be a guy trouble topic! Dumped me :/ Been a week, seeeee, thats why i know what Jack's feeling (: -x-

I'd give it a tad longer, we've been talking for over 10 minutes now and the only conversation made is about me having a flattering webcam. tip number one - that is the worst chat up line ever...

Ohh, got his msn already I'm on a roll tonight... you're not the only one...

That's the sixth person from tf to say that to me tonight... :$ I never get so much attention (: ahaa! (: p.s. Myspaceee. Bebooo. seeeee, we lasses aren't all that bad! (:

Anddd pregnancy (yerrrr you lads got the easy job ) and of course we ladies have to put up with you gentlemen (: Anyway, I reckon your ex just wants you to want her back and she knows she can't get you back, thus, she takes and sends the scantily clad pictures of herself to give her the expectation you'll take her back if you 'see what you're missing', and she probably knows you see through everything she does, which is why she goes to the extremes of lying to you if she thinks you'll believe it in order to make you want her back, bad way of doing it, but hey, some people are like that... (: -Hannah! (: x

I'm currently looking for a bike and I'm Rob Brodie's ex, after a month or two of listening about trials every day i thought it'd be worth trying to see why he's so interested in it (: So I logged on here and kinda got into it, I mean, seriously, every day for 8 months he spoke about bikes, and i got used to it, I went with him on a Pompey ride and it was just so amazing to watch (: And thankyou, I don't get that often Ahaa, guys think they have problems with girls, try being a girl with girl problems (: -Hannah (: x

not all girls are that baddd! some guys... well... (: they're just as bad sometimes yanoo! (: And Jackkkkk! - Seriously, being a girl (funnily enough) i know what her brains saying (: she could be trying to make you jealous by trying it on with that other lad, but then alot of girls will do that for attention, like, alot of them will flirt over msn and stuff, and sometimes yesss, it does go furthur, although you say you love her and stuff and you always take her back, maybe she just doesn't feel it and want's someone else to make her feel how you should make her feel (if that makes sense at all...) and maybe she just wants the male attention. But then you have to kinda ask yourself why she's talking to him? Does she feel for him? Or is he simply just a friend? I know it sounds odd, but like, all of my friends are males cause i just find alot of girls are backstabbers and arent worth much to be honest! (: I constantly turn to my male friends for support be it over msn, text, phonecalls or actually meeting with them. Plus, about the cuts on your ex's arms, it's understandably hard to take in that she's self harming and it's very upsetting of course, but alot of people do it just because it's their way of coping, I mean, stupidly enough, I've done it before, not because I wanted to but because I felt it was the only thing that I could control. I would cry and stuff and because I couldn't control anything else I would cut myself in order to feel in control again. It sounds so strange, because people always ask why you'd cut yourself for control... but it's all in the mind really, and unless you've experienced being so depressed and challenged you do turn to self harming it is incredibly hard to understand. I think you really have to ask yourself if you two together could try to make it work, or if you'd rather leave her behind and try to move on? Obviously, being with this girl for a year and a half it's going to be hard to let go, and i understand that as much as most people would. I know what it feels like to 'wait around for someone you love' and seeing as she hasn't 'done anything' since you've broken up it also sounds like she doesn't want to hurt you anymore either, perhaps she's realised how much she hurt you and she wants you to realise that deep down she does have a heart and she does need you. Perhaps I've rambled on a little, but the real question is; do you really need her? or are you telling yourself you need her just because she's been a big part of you for so long? Talk to her, properly, no arguements or quizzes about this other guy, try to ask her how she really feels and if she thinks you two can make it work. If you still love her as much as you think you do then surely trying is worth a shot? Sorry for the long endless reply by the way. It actually made me cry writing that cause I'm experiencing the same kinda thing right now, girls are so emotional aha! But anyway, hope that made sense in some hopeful way... -Hannah (: x (Oh, and trying to make her jealous with someone else will make her worse, trust me, it hurts even more seeing someone you love in the arms of another girl; it really wouldn't work in getting her back if that's what you want :/ )