In reply to your queries; "Do you think i need to stop being a girl and try and ride it properly or find a frame that will suit me?" No! you dont need to stop being a girl! Infact if it was a girl then we probably wouldnt be complaining! Any way, I know a few people with this frame who have all personally found it alright. To be honest, as with any new frame, you need to adjust to it Once you have riden a few times im sure you should be fine Tay.. x