Pashley26

Trials-Forum to the rescue!!!

I said it was a question when I said "asking people questions in this way." I realise this now. I am right though, and if Matthew hadn't of been such a petulant bell end of epic getting in my tits proportions this discussion wouldn't be happening. Phoarrrrr, I like it!!!! Last sentence is a cracker. What you have potentially inadvertently done, or maybe incredibly cleverly is exactly what I do to people and was talking about in my post. Your words have altered my decision making to thinking exactly like you are.

When did I say it was a question?

True but also not true. I say to customers all the time "We're going to go out for a quick test drive and see if you like the car." I've made a statement, signposted my next actions. As a responsible and reasoned person, they know what I want. And if they don't want to, they can say "well actually I don't want to, what I want to do is..." And so follows the conversation. I see roughly 45 customers a month that I test drive, I say that exact sentence to every single one of them, and have done for the past 7 years. Let's round it down and say that's 3500 people. Not one has ever questioned it or taken offence because I'm "telling them what to do."

Now that I am home, and have access to my iPad to type up an actual reply. I'll take five minutes to tell you why you are actually wrong yourself. Sam originally posted that he doesn't like it when he asks his girlfriend "what do you want to eat?" And she replies with "I don't know." Followed by the general discussion of forcing the other party (we won't say woman, because you never know with Sam) to make a decision with almost no input on suggestions or recommendations of where he might like to eat. My response was that he was actually the problem, and that every woman wants a man who makes decision for them. Clearly basing this on my own partners, and experiences with women. Where I take issue is what follows next, with your reply. Saying things like "my girlfriend, not being an idiot..." Specifically putting punctuation prior to expressing that your girlfriend specifically is not an idiot doesn't like being "told what to do." This is the problem. You have misunderstood decision making, for being told what to do.(I will address that shortly.) But more importantly, and regardless of whatever defence you try to put up you most certainly have...implied that my own partner IS an idiot. But simply because you, being an idiot have misconstrued what having a decision made for you, and being told what to do are. Poor form I say. And quite insulting, as per previous efforts at this point I decided you can go f**k yourself but neither had the time or implements to form my replies in less than a sentence. So, down to the bones of this matter. You can't understand why having a decision made for you, and being told what to do are different. Let's run the scenario... Man: "We're going to go for dinner tonight at Pizza Express." (This signposts two things, your intention to go out for dinner tonight, and your intention to go to Pizza Express.) Possible outcomes from the partner are as follows; Partner option 1: "Oh ok, I'll go get ready." Partner option 2: "I don't really fancy Pizza Express." Partner option 3: "I don't really fancy Pizza Express. Can we go to Nandos?" Partner option 4: "I don't really fancy going out." Asking questions in this fashion forces the other person to make a decision. And as I read it a lack of decisiveness is the issue here for Sam? To force that person to make a decision, you shut the f**k up and do not speak once you have "asked" the initial statement. (I am using the word statement, because it's been pointed out below and I needed to add this so people who don't know how this work, can know how it works to try it.) If the partner goes with option 2 or 3 you have one vital bit of information you had before, and half your questions asked. You know she would like to go out, but not where you suggested. Following option 2, you can reply with your own suggestions or signposting again a confirmation she would like to go out, but where would she choose? What type of food? If we revert that question around. Man: "What do you want for dinner?" (Possible replies for the indecisive partner in the conversation are infinite.) Because it is an open question, commitment is harder to gain. Asking closed questions categorically is a trait that will redeem more success when you ask questions. And absolutely does make you come across as more decisive, enthusiastic, and quite importantly confident, which in turn makes you factually more attractive to women. - To put this into context, on a daily basis I make decisions for people simply be asking them questions which they have to give me a choice answer to. "So, I have a couple of slots Thursday. What suits you best AM or PM?" Followed by, stfu until they speak. "So, I have got the right car, assuming I can put a great package together and get the car within our budget I'm sure you'd like to go with the deal?" Followed by, stfu until they speak. "Brilliant, and which specification do you prefer, the X or the Y?" Followed by, stfu until they speak. All questions which asked different serve absolutely no benefit to the other party in a decision making way, but could still be used as polite conversation. I would never tell any partner what they were going to do, I'm not a fanny. But as a few people in this forum, and in lots of other circumstances you maybe aren't familiar with there are people who can make decisions for people simply be making them make the decision for themselves through positive reinforcement and asking questions. It's science. So pipe down chum, because you simply misunderstood what I was saying in a very large way and went off the rails about it dropping petulant and unkind remarks about my current distance from my girlfriend, and most offensively that she may well be in some way mentally impeded. Which given my troubled upbringing I find incredibly unnecessary and genuinely offensive. With that in mind, I offer you a virtual fist pump and I'll go < that way and if you want to go > that way I think we'll all live to tell the tale some other time with no harm done.

I haven't at all, not a tiny bit.

I have never met a single woman who wouldn't rather be met with a choice and suggestion than "where do you want to eat tonight?" Because a strong minded, non-retarded woman as you like to put it will tell you what she wants to do. I don't know about you guys, but MY JOB entirely revolves around asking people closed, open or biased questions. It is FACT that humans prefer to choose from option than free prompted choice.

No, I almost certainly would kick your ass if you actually spoke to me like that.

So my girlfriends an idiot/retard? Sorry that's all I got from your post because I read the first couple of lines and decided you can go f**k yourself. If you said that to me down the pub, I'd have glassed your face.

Yeah, why would I care about rug munchers? The thread is about "the woman in your life".

This is your fault. Every woman wants a man that makes decision for them. Every single one. "We're going to Pizza Express for dinner." "Ok." - "Where do you want to go for dinner?" "...[thinking]So many f**king options, why is this my f**king decision?[/thinking].... Up to you?"

My middle name is Vincent after my uncles Rapide. I wouldn't want to go round it on a bike, I'm sure it's exciting though but I can't imagine it's hugely competitive or enjoyable with all those kerbs?

No, not at Curborough. It would be a disaster waiting. To happen.

What's your best time at Curborough Ad?

Curby gets my vote. In.

TF track day would be mega super LOLS. I'll see what's happening over the coming months and post some ideas. But yeah, I'm in.

Oh Tic I've said it from day one, I'd f**k you. You're awesome. If you want a long term and meaningful relationship I'm more than happy to shelf what I've got at the moment for you.

I in no way plan of trying to convince her to come home, I am having far too much fun. I very much doubt I'll be giving her an I told you so speech when she gets back either, I'll be far too busy trying to find us a new house. I just find it odd really!

So yesterday I get a phone call from girlfriend. "I miss you, I think I might come home before Christmas. I think when I get to Australia I will have two months there and I don't think it's worth staying until the end of January because it's just spending time and money away when I would have better chances of getting a new job if I started looking then ahead of the new term." Managed to for some reason convince her that I think she should stay if she wants to and not feel any pressure to come home and that whilst we all missed her she really wasn't missing much and that it was a once in a longtime opportunity and blah blah blah.... Then I got off the phone, went to the gym and thought... "Hang the f**k on?! I f**king told you all of this months before you even booked your plane tickets, and you told me to shut he f**k up and stop trying to control you because it was your f**king trip and I didn't want you to go!!!!" f**king women. Literally like Katy Perry.

It's a young persons thing. Like calling somebody pal, southerners only call somebody pal if they are convinced they're a thoroughbred c*nt.

Guy on Audi Sport posted up as a new trader (of sorts) saying he was producing these to he'll pay for his degree, and if you liked his Facebook page you could win a set for free. Had a chat with the bloke. He seemed like a nice enough guy. Bought some with super pro bushes pre installed. Decided to get some caster increase bushes whilst I was at it. Yeah. They look something like this fitted up - And they reduce the standard 45mm bush to the original (and then recalled) 30mm bush. And also replace it with a poly super pro version. Stiff and yummy. Basically the original 35mm bush on the front of the TT's and S3's made the steering quite sharp and snappy. Audi recalled this to make the car softer and easier to drive. Increasing the bush size to 45mm and changing the density and design of the bushing. Fitting these is supposed to really sharpen up the front end on turn in. So then I ordered these as well so I can increase the caster on the front. Oh happy days.

That's fantastic news, glad you went for the safer and more comfortable 6 points. Mine are mounted to the read seat belt points yes. Luckily the AWD floor of the S3 brings the belt mounts quite high and far back so the angle is acceptable. Good luck with the cage mission.

She doesn't know how to use message boards and forums. http://www.trials-forum.co.uk/topic/75456-teenage-angst-communal-agony-aunt-thread/page-604#entry2611297

Smeeeeagol.

I'm sure texted is valid for past tense, it just pisses me off. "So I text Adam about lunch time." Sounds better than "so I texted Adam about lunch time." It just doesn't sound right. Textes is the one that annoys me most.