General advice, I've been with my Tara for 2 years 7 months today, not tha i'm counting :$ It'll sound really cheesy but if you find someone you really want to talk to and you like seeing them happy it tends to help, taking things slower seems to help aswell rather than jumping into bed with them get to know them and they become a friend aswell as a lover I know this wont work with every girl/ man but with me and Tara it really has I probably sound like a right puff but i don't care, i love just listening to her and being around her :$ infact thinking about it i miss her right now .