Yep, that's part of the point I was trying to make. Because she does care about you, she didn't want to hurt you, so kept things rolling 'as normal' until she couldn't bear it any longer.
To 'cover up' like that takes a lot of resources, it's not an easy position to be in...
The thing is I wasn't aware to any sort of problem at all. I was quite happy in how things were and she seemed the same throughout.
I couldnt be in a situation where the feelings aren't mutual. Part of me wants her to see she might have made a mistake but now I'm plagued with doubt as to whether she'd do it to me again should the chance arise.
Just knowing I'm not in that commitment with her anymore is the worst bit. Shared a sense of humour, personality, views.. Everything about her to me was ideal.
^^ What he said, it can be hard to broach the subject of a relationship break down if it's a slow burning thing, I would be willing to bet that she still wants to remain in contact as a friend because that's how she sees you now.
The same happened to me, I was with Jacki (my last ex) for 4 years and it just worked out that we weren't as compatible as we thought we were but she had the balls to bring it out into the open and end the relationship. It was gutting but I soon realised that yes it was the right decision.
It all got a bit weird (in a good way) in that I almost immediately started a casual relationship with my now wife (who was Jacki's friend and had that week broken up with her partner of 6 years), Jacki then went and started a similar relationship with Lee (a mutual friend of all three of us who had just broken up with his partner of 3 years) and are now engaged. We're all still really good mates, it's just been a bit of a wife swap and all of us are in a much happier place
It will be for the better, blokes quite often are emotionally retarded and blinkered to relationship problems if they're subtle issues; moreso to the point if the partner is hiding the issues in an attempt to not hurt you. Yes it sucks, yes it feels hollow and empty but it will be better!