try and find an exploded view on the profile site or something. It certainly sounds like some of the spacers are in the wrong place, thus when you tighten your hub the bearings are being crushed, i would ride it while its like this or your just going to kill the bearings real quick. Try looking at another profile, or try loads of different spacer compinations until one works. Try and think logicaly and work out if the bearing would be crushed when you tighten the bolts